tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post3851736910889172791..comments2023-09-18T21:43:47.885-07:00Comments on Remains of the Day: Hostility to MotherhoodAndreahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14748454816480995214noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-83681500478246027642012-01-18T11:14:01.188-08:002012-01-18T11:14:01.188-08:00Hope you were able to use that fuel for a future f...Hope you were able to use that fuel for a future fire... Keep us posted on your progress! :)Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01247435580507783428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-24849759894197437842012-01-12T20:45:46.612-08:002012-01-12T20:45:46.612-08:00What Jaimie said. also - sounds like something yo...What Jaimie said. also - sounds like something you should write about for Lone Star Ma #11!Lone Star Mahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339475499304565638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-3142762885513726762012-01-12T17:14:22.782-08:002012-01-12T17:14:22.782-08:00Turn this into something you can use, something yo...Turn this into something you can use, something your character can use. Study these women who hurt you and make them characters in your story. Use life.Rachael | The Slow-Cooked Sentencehttp://theslowcookedsentence.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-47880935869502687312012-01-12T13:29:46.418-08:002012-01-12T13:29:46.418-08:00Yikes! I know the feeling of taking judgment of on...Yikes! I know the feeling of taking judgment of one's characters personally! For what it's worth, I think you're great!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602059669220808625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-47861512528654568472012-01-11T17:32:08.480-08:002012-01-11T17:32:08.480-08:00For a long time, I found myself with that sinking ...For a long time, I found myself with that sinking feeling because of something that someone had said. I have chosen to be a SAHM and I am so many other things too. There will always be someone who faults you for doing the things that you do. After thinking myself into circles one day I found the answer. This has set me free in so many ways. "I am okay with who I am and where I am at, if you are not ok with who I am and where I am at, then that is your problem not mine." This simple phrase set me free because it was true. I don't need anyone to approve of the choices that I make because they are mine to make. <br /><br />I agree with Jaimie, I have a lot to say here and I could go on and on. But yes... you have hit on something here.Raina @ Mamacita Spins The Globehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08686405668797883267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-90198330273791888772012-01-11T14:23:08.992-08:002012-01-11T14:23:08.992-08:00I wish people would just cut each other some slack...I wish people would just cut each other some slack. I think it is very admirable to be a mother, and I have the utmost respect for mothers. I truly believe it is the most difficult job there is. However, I also think it is fine to decide not to have children. I think it is a beautiful thing that in this day and age women have choices. <br /> <br />I had a friend tell me that my life was meaningless because I did not have children and my life would never be as important as his. That hurt me deeply. No, I do not have children, but I feel like my life has meaning and is rich with friends, and children of friends, and family and travel and experiences.<br /><br />I think there is too much hostility both ways. What happened to personal choice and respect?Heather Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17607667456630617499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-45280408011041636602012-01-11T13:05:13.362-08:002012-01-11T13:05:13.362-08:00Yes, Andrea, I have experienced this--a lot, from ...Yes, Andrea, I have experienced this--a lot, from various outlets. I'm going to have to think about this and maybe even send you an email because my comment could be blog post-length in itself. I truly believe we live in a very, very anti-mother and anti-child culture. I'll get back on tonight and share some examples. I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. It's like a punch in the gut somehow--that all that you've done for your children (and, therefore, for society, as far as I'm concerned) is worth nothing and, in fact, means you're no longer interesting or valuable. You're "just" a mom. This is one of those issues that can get me yelling.Jaimiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06485771858410245401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6129064848004232361.post-53944418655135040652012-01-11T09:31:07.900-08:002012-01-11T09:31:07.900-08:00I would guess that those young women have a LOT of...I would guess that those young women have a LOT of life experience ahead of them. Sounds like they need to learn a thing or two. The one thing you can get from this diverse group of people is that you will have a great range of opinions and that will help your work grow, whether you agree with them or not.<br /><br />I had the experience of an fellow women business owner telling me straight to my face "I hate children." I was so shocked that I didn't say anything but I definitely reacted internally and I remember it. What a thing to say to the mother of 3! I am sure if I said the same thing about dogs I would have gotten an earful.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17078478370206751594noreply@blogger.com